Crossing the Sea: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity

The first thing to say about Crossing the Sea: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity is that it’s not actually about work. The second thing is, my God, what would it be, to be able to write as David Whyte does? Whyte’s lyricism infuses the pages with linguistic beauty that has to be experienced to be understood.

This book, you see, was supposed to be merely a distraction for me, an interlude between various histories of Southeast Asia, works of fiction by Vietnamese and Indonesian authors, tales – real and merely informed – of war and colonialism and regret. Work, in fact. Instead, and in no small part because of the prose, Crossing the Sea captivated me wholly and completely, slightly unnerving me in the process, for this book felt as though it could have been written for me, an admittedly absurd idea.

Against the backdrop of the Galapagos in the opening chapters and the Spanish steps at the end, with Seattle and Snowdonia nestled snuggly in the middle, Whyte works his wordsmith magic. He does so in describing his mother, she who crossed the Irish Sea at 15, against the wishes of her widowed father. Here, Whyte hones in on the “effervescent, temporary power of leave-taking and the powerlessness of those left behind” such that the reader can picture a bent man, raging against the world, as he plunges a knife deep into a chair, the only course of action left for him. Is it any wonder that her son perceives the mark this experience has left, unspoken though it may be? “She has never said it out loud; she has always lived it out loud.” (p. 109) The courage of the leave-taking, the courage of living life out loud: the determined and tenacious teen smoothed and strengthened over time as seaglass tumbled by waves.

Whyte similarly conjures imagery from ink when he reflects on the fortune that befalls those who know beyond a superficial level how to make a life of meaning, writing that this notion of purpose “is silver, gold, the moon, and the stars to those who struggle for the merest glimmer of what they want or what they are suited to.” Before I’d fully digested his meaning, I was transported, fairy-like, to twirl in the moonlight beneath ribbons of metallic light.

In pondering the essence of a life well lived, Whyte writes “death’s tide washes over everything we have taken so long to write in the sand.” (p. 178) Life: ephemeral; time: ever slippery, and the chief mistress of Crossing the Sea. I’ll say no more of her than that to read “speed is a sin…glu[ing] us into whatever immobile, unattending identity we have constructed” (p. 121) was to be hit in the solar plexus, so uncanny was the resonance with my own personal reckonings.

Though they make their homes in different genres, the parallels between Whyte’s philosophies and those of Alan Watts or Pema Chödrön are many and remarkable. Only the choice of words separates their notions of self-determination powered by the twin undercurrents of joy and gratitude and necessity of remaining wholly in the moment. Whyte’s observation that there are “powers at play in the world about which [we] know very little” could just as easily have come from either Chödrön or Watts.

Like Chödrön, Whyte writes of edges galore, while it’s in the notion of unmaking a life where Watts’ and Whyte’s thoughts are twinned. Where Watts presents the idea of embroidery representing exterior and interior life – beautiful on the front and messy threads hidden beneath – Whyte merely observes that “in order to stay alive, we have to unmake a living in order to get back to living the life we wanted for ourselves” (p. 77). Where Watts stops, Whyte pushes on, asking: for what is desire? The origin of the word, the reader learns, is the old Latin root, de sider, or of the stars. “To have a desire in life literally means to keep your star in sight, to follow a glimmer, a beacon, a disappearing will-o’-the-wisp over the horizon into someplace you cannot yet fully imagine” (p. 78). Here again my mind takes flight, slipping the surly bonds of earth of follow Whyte’s glimmer, whatever it may illuminate.

Lest I appear to slander the title, I’ll slip in that it’s not wholly true to say work does not feature. After all, in speaking of dignity and personal honor, Whyte admonishes his reader of “certain things we should not do, certain people we should not work for, lines we should not cross…money we should not earn…” (p. 90). In the event the deed is done? “We must speak out, take the wheel, call the rest of the crew ourselves, or, if all of these avenues are blocked, abandon ship, resign, and go elsewhere” (p. 47). Of the workplace itself, Whyte notes presciently of “multi-ethnic, eccentric, and slightly chaotic organizations” that will be both infinitely more ungovernable and adaptable than the reader of 2001 could imagine. Check, check, and check.

Only once does Crossing the Sea begin to drag a bit; ironically, it’s as Whyte describes his transition to full-time poet that his writing reaches a low ebb. It is in returning, in thought though not in person, to the Galapagos that he recovers, for in reading “There is no mercy in this world if at least once in our lives we do not feel the privilege of being wanted where we also want to be wanted” (p. 195) is one not quickened?

Multiple times as I read, I wondered if I needn’t ruminate on Whyte’s words or his meaning so deeply, if I might perhaps be better served merely to luxuriate in the wash of his lush prose over me. Whyte’s own words put paid to such a notion. Writing of Margaret Thatcher, he observes that whatever else she may have been she was only and always “unutterably herself,” thus persuading me that my own nature could not, or at least should not, be so easily countermanded. When Whyte doubled down a few chapters later writing “one of the distinguishing features of any courageous human being is the ability to remain unutterably themselves…” (p. 165), I was glad for my insight though admittedly unsure that I qualify for such lofty esteem. The sentiment, though, well the sentiment is something for which we all might strive.